He said, she said … but where is the love?

Welcome back my sweetpeas ... I have decided that before I continue on and post more delicious sharings, I am going to include this one which I had previously written over a year ago on a different blog!  The timing is simply divine and the reason I am including it here on this site is because when I did write it way back when, I received many comments pertaining to the realness of the content!  THINGS that common folk not just spiritual crazies (like me), could relate quite effortlessly to.

So please forgive if you have already read this and if not, do enjoy and I hope it touches the heart in ways that will help you to release whatever ties that bind! Big love and hugs from the heart doctor ...

RELATIONSHIPS, ahh yes, they are delightful experiences in many ways! Even if you are not presently involved with that “special somebody”, our entire existence is really based around learning to deal with some form of inter-relatedness and connection. Even if you have chosen the extreme scenario and have completely removed yourself from any kind of human connection, the reality is that you still have a relationship with yourself and your physical surroundings to contend with.

Today though I would like to talk about our connections to other people, actually about our love connections.

How many of us have experienced the nasty moments of some form of betrayal within that very intimate, sacred space we share with another? It doesn’t even have to be tainted with the “sexual betrayal” brush, it can include any kind of situation that causes either you or your other half to have feelings of distrust of some form, or pain brought about because of untruths being spoken or truths not being spoken!

When this sort of thing lands in our heart space, what is the real message? Honestly, what are we to do with this sometimes devastating and numbing sensation that permeates every fiber of our being? Well, lets take a closer look at perhaps an alternative way of interpreting this very real occurrence. I am not going to share a psychological perspective but rather a personal view through the eyes of the “heart doctor“!

What ROLE do YOU usually PLAY?

 

VICTIM or PERPETRATOR is the beginning point that will allow us to see a deeper gift buried within the offering. In this delightful dance of betrayal, the players are either on the side of victim or that of perpetrator and actually throughtout the entire number, can switch sides at anytime as a means of keeping the music alive. What most don’t and cannot realize or even see at that point in time is the gift of freedom that lies within the exchange. Let me explain!

I am not saying that betrayal is a nice experience for anyone to have to deal with but the opportunity of course, should one choose, is to embrace the moment fully and own up to a personal responsibility and accountability that is being brought to the forefront of the shared relationship. You see, the deepest truth here about ALL RELATIONSHIPS be it family, friends, acquaintances or lovers is really to reflect back to you your deepest essence.

"So if you find yourself engaged in something like a betrayal, the freedom and release will come ONLY when you are able to OWN the experience and use your god-given ability to either RESPOND with love instead of the usual tendancy most of us two legged creatures automatically flow to, that being a fear based REACTION." - heart doctor

If this is too much for the mind to take in lets try looking at it this way. What if you were to hit the pause button long enough for the drama to stop playing out on the physical realm in order for you to have a safe space in which to become accountable, for not only your contribution, but also for you to choose your next moment of offering? You see, if both parties were able to face the inadequacy in this manner, the resolve would be completely different than what most folks are used to experiencing when this sort of thing finds its way to their door.

But WHY would we want to do this you ask?

 

If we as humans are able to actively engage our spirits to fill the void we temporarily feel, not only would we be lifted to higher levels of understanding and compassion (which is an ultimate achievement on its own) we would be able to live in harmony instead of the ways of separation that actually keep us longing to feel complete. More relationships would survive and OUR SELF RELATIONSHIP would prosper to levels the mind can’t even begin to fathom!

This sense of awakened freedom is what helps us to REMEMBER the TRUTH of WHO WE REALLY ARE! Without this knowing we will always find ourselves in battle with the illusions that plague our deeper purpose! So my beauties the choice is ALWAYS yours to make.


The next time you find yourself smack dap in the middle of some form of betrayal, do remember these words and find the courage within to try a different approach!! It does REALLY work ~ If you feel that your heart would like to have more clarity on this subject, please don’t hesitate to contact me … lovintheheart@gmail.com

“own your life, engage your heart and let your song be heard my people”

"excuse ME ... has anybody seen the missing parts of ME??"

No really, I'm SERIOUS!! I know they were once here but for the life of me, I cannot seem to find any of these all to familar things anymore and I do not KNOW what the heck is happenin'!

Sound familar to any of you precious lovelies?  Well, if you have ever found yourself in the middle of some kind of monumental somethin, a mid life crisis perhaps, or even something as common as a breakup ... let me just remind you that it is NOT uncommon to experience this kind of mental perception and/or craziness! In fact, it is usually the effect that we all are left with once all of the dust settles to the bottom of our consciousness!

Is it FUN? Absolutely NOT!!  This is the time when things really begin to get confusing, frustrating and just down right nasty to our emotional stability!  This can be the impetus also for one to find themselves sitting on a couch in a psychiatrist's office in an attempt to begin the process of opening up what may end up being years and years of emotional baggage and spiritual CONSTIPATION!!!

OK so are we FULL OF emotional and maybe even physical CRAP??  How can one really be sure that what we are feeling is not just who we are?  This is a great question because this is the point of NO RETURN!  Once we embrace the courage and decide to ask ourselves this somewhat daunting question, our world will NEVER be the same ever again!

WHY you ask?

Because once this gateway opens, all of the so called CRAP begins to empty out. Let me just say, this process is not highly enjoyable to any of the human senses but if you can perservere and trust the process, you will soon find yourself and your spirit, heading toward the finish line with a huge gift of TRUTH awaiting your embrace!  WORD of CAUTION though ... once the flood of crap begins to flow you must do 3 things:

1. Find a safe place to go
2. Don't pick it up and look at it
3. Don't pick it up and throw it at anyone ... let it simply be flushed away!!!

So WHAT really HAPPENS during this spiritual CLEANSING anyways?

Reader's digest version .... FREEDOM and UNDERSTANDING, MOVEMENT and JOY! 

Once the untruth is removed from our beings, as it pertains to whatever the physical experience it is you find yourself entrapped in, there is an element of peace that comes as the result.  Peace in the sense that we are finally able to LET GO of the pain and resistance (which actually is the cause of pain in most cases) that has held us captive in delusion. We not only realize that we have the power to release the chains that bind but more importantly, we are gifted with a deeper insight into WHO we really ARE!!

Let me say this again, we are given the opportunity to STOP the blame game and all the projections that we have become so accustomed to using as a means of shielding ourselves from our deepest truth.

Let's face it, it is always easier to put the load on someone else and make them feel the responsiblity for the reasons why we are not happy or enjoying the things we think we deserve.  THIS my PEOPLE is a very hard pill to digest for some because the LAST thing the ego wants to do is give away its power, especially to the heart!  Here is where is gets fun though, hypothetically speaking of course, because we as personalities living in a human body do NOT consciously realize the name of this game and the profound effect it has on our emotions.

Unless we have been opened to the reality and truth of who and why we are here on this planet in the first place, the movement into this higher enlightened truth will seem like "woohoo talk" to most!  Hence the reason this planet, (and yours), is so filled to capacity with a monstrosity of ridiculous, hurtful expressions and outbursts!

Ok so let's recap as I seem to have gone on a wee tangent from a "love break up" to wars and world craziness ... please know that it is ALL RELATED!!!

Simply speaking, when we find ourselves disengaged within self, experiencing sadness and pain it is because the eyes we are using to see through are not reflecting truth that is in our heart.  We are caught in a game that NO ONE can win when the ego is the force behind each move. 

"Our sense of self will only be revealed ONCE we see the perfection, love and complete wholeness of life that each of us embodies.  When we develop this kind of vision for self, it will expand outwards and continue to do so until it reaches the depth of the universe!" - heart doctor

IT ALL BEGINS with EACH of us .... WE need to become the change we wish to see in this world, as spoken by Ghandi ... our personal world as well as the world at large!

So if you are presently out of a relationship that has hurt the heart, do yourself a huge favor and take the time to release yourself from something that is no longer the truth!  Give yourself the permission to grieve for the time it takes for you to release it out, perhaps the loss of dream that was held within that person, in order to rejoice the gift of love that the heart was able to experience!  There is a gift of learning in EVERYTHING we do .. it is up to us to find it and receive it!

This is where real change can come ... for you and for everyone you LOVE!

... "own your life, engage your heart and let your heartsong be heard my people" ...